Sunday, December 21, 2014

The Unfair Truth of Bestie Breakups


Just the other day I saw a picture of this girl who had been my best friend for five years. We did everything together, but Christmas was the one time a year that we held some of our most sacred traditions. No matter if we were arguing or laughing, once Christmas was here all was forgiven so the festivities could begin. So when I saw this picture of her celebrating with other people the realization set in that breaking up with your best friend is way worse than breaking up with any significant other.

Who are you going to vent to (judgment free) about the people whom you loathe the most? There are so many days that we all deal with complete bone heads, but being able to call your bestie to complain, reenact situations, or simply vent to makes us all feel so much better. After you break up though, who do you call? Let's be honest with ourselves when we say our significant others can only handle so much of our bitching before they tune us out, our bestie would have joined in on the bitch fest to make us feel so much better.

Boyfriends/Girlfriends can be replaced, years of friendship cannot.
As much as we would like to think our ex bestie can be replaced, the truth is they can't. Those years of friendship, secrets, drunken nights, hungover mornings, traditions, inside jokes, tears, and joys can never be erased as hard as we might try. No one will truly understand a particular season of your life that your ex bestie saw you through and why it molded you into who you are now. That is such a hard concept to accept and probably the most painful one. They held a piece of your heart that no one else understood.

The shameful days of binge watching Netflix & eating junk food is now a solo job.
Let's not kid ourselves, those days weren't as shameful because your bestie was looking just as awful as you were and justifying it as a "personal health day." Now that you two broke up it truly is shameful to sit on your couch all day watching a Gilmore Girls marathon via Netflix while eating bags of Doritos, Cheetos, Chili Cheese Fritos, basically the entire -itos family. It is no longer considered having a girls' day, it's just pure lazy. I find this to be one of the hardest things to give up in a bestie breakup...I enjoy my "personal health days."

Bestie break ups are tragic and will hurt no matter how many years go by. You can try to replace that person but it is the memories that kill you most. Significant others come and go, they can be replaced, but your ex bestie cannot be by any means...not if it was a true bestie. I don't have any advice on how to move on from it considering I'm still trying to figure it out myself. If anyone has advice, feel free to drop it. This just felt like a topic that doesn't get much recognition, but the heartbreak and struggle are real. So where do we go from here?



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